Everything is Beautifully Temporary

When adversity strikes, remember that everything is temporary. 

Recently a friend of mine ran into some troubling adversity. I tried earnestly to say something that would help, but I was at a total loss for words. The situation was a tough one, and no words seemed adequate.

What do you say to someone who suffers from devastating news? Don’t worry. It’ll get better with time?

Let’s face it, in moments like this, that kind of statement can feel like a slap in the face because it’s hard to see past the blow. Until we’ve walked in someone’s shoes, we can’t be certain what thoughts are running around the mind. I’ve heard it said repeatedly that time heals. 

I do believe this is true. Time heals. It doesn’t completely take away the pain, but it does eventually smooth over some of the initial bumps. I find great hope in this concept. And I hope my friend and you do too.

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“Sandcastles are temporary. Trying to build them into permanent structures is an impossible dream. They fall down quickly, with little warning. The comfort comes when one realizes that when they crumble and fall back into the sea, they become the foundation for something else in the waiting.” – Sandcastles

Everything is temporary. 

As deflating as adversity can feel at the moment, I believe it puts us in a place that helps us grow into even better people. Because everything is temporary and doesn’t last forever, we can draw out the lessons and experiences and transform from them. 

Something to keep in mind – without pain, agony, and defeat, we have no frame of reference on which to judge greatness when it shines itself onto our life. I am a firm believer that defining moments shape our lives just as the powerful storms and angry volcanoes of years past have shaped Earth.

Without adversity, we’d have no Grand Canyon, no Mount Everest, no separate continents, and in respect to our singular lives, no respect for ordinary days when all is calm and right. And just as the temporary storm clouds clear and open up to bright blue, sunny skies, my wish for anyone battling adversity is that so too will the shrouds of fear, sadness, and hopelessness be lifted for you. For everything is temporary.

For the sake of analogy, let’s take nature to explain the beauty in the temporary. In every blink, life evolves. What disguises itself as death in nature is quite spectacularly a sacrificial dance of transformation. In nature we see the falling of leaves as a marked finality from their mighty sustainer. Yet, their shedding grants a moment of revival. Beneath the surface exists an exciting universe of possibility where nutrient-rich life blooms in a nurturing cocoon. Energy circulates and provides the eager new growth with the power to transform into fresh new life. This newness gathers its strength and bursts through the protective coating of its womb and reaches toward the air in a dance of spectacular beauty. In symbiotic union, the new bloom shares its life-sustaining richness with the world, offering its grace and love to all. It will share its fruit until it, too, has lived its purpose, at which point it will sacrifice its temporary gifts for the promise of future generations. It is only through this temporary cycle that we emerge stronger and more capable to thrive along with life’s dynamic nature.

Wishing you the very best,

Suzie Carr, novelist

12 replies
  1. Kellie
    Kellie says:

    Beautifully written Suzie- it’s a learned process to look beyond sadness and adversity – takes courage. I’ve found just to hug someone tightly is sometimes a lot better than words x

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    • Suzie Carr
      Suzie Carr says:

      I agree Kellie. The human touch is vital. Unfortunately my friend lives across the world. Thank goodness for virtual hugs because I do believe they can be just as heartfelt helpful.

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  2. Pat Lavit
    Pat Lavit says:

    Hi Suzie, we should never stay in adversity , after the storms , the sun always shines ! hard times are bad but if you open your heart, you will know the happiness and peace inside you! Despite the difficulties, tell you a star always shine for you, you will protect and soothe your pain and you are never alone , caring souls are still there, near you. Obstacles make us grow and make us stronger! 🙂

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  3. Lara Estes
    Lara Estes says:

    There were 3 defining moments in my life that change my course completely. The first happened I was in my early twenties. I won’t say what is was but it stopped me dead in my tracks. There are days, well weeks that I can not recall to this day. But it was a push that I am grateful for to this day. I left behind a lot rough and dangerous things and cut ties with allot of people.
    Second was when my father passed, that taught me a very great lesson of forgiveness. The night before he past as I sat and held his hand he asked for forgiveness, for the things he had said and done to me. With tears in my eyes I forgave him and kiss him on the cheek. It taught me to never wait to ask for forgiveness, even if you don’t recieve forgiveness.
    Lastly the day that I died. I don’t take anything for granted anymore. I am thankful every day for even the smallest of things. I give with no expectations And pray that I will once again open my eyes on the morning.
    These are not the only things which have shaped and mold my life. So in difficult times you don’t have to say anything. Just sit there with them and listen. Be there for them, they will thank you for it time and again.

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    • Suzie Carr
      Suzie Carr says:

      Wow this is so profound Lara. You’ve certainly been down a road that is anything but smooth, and I believe that is why you are the sweet and understanding person you are, always with something supportive and teachable to say. Thank you for sharing this with us.

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  4. Amy
    Amy says:

    Ohhh. I’m sorry for your friend. I hope s/he had a chance to read what you wrote because it’s all true.

    Adversity is a part of life and how you handle it determines whether it damages you or makes you stronger and/or smarter.
    In adversarial situations I’ve found I must first recognize what part I played, understand what is and is not my stuff, swim through
    whatever emotions need to surface, then be willing to accept or offer forgiveness.

    Resentment kills, so I personally can’t allow it in my life.

    A stranger’s hug to your friend. Sending positive energy.

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    • Suzie Carr
      Suzie Carr says:

      Hi Amy, thank you for the virtual hug to my friend. I do believe the power in thought and intention is very strong, so no doubt the hug was felt.
      I love your view on adversity. It is so visual, and it’s something I can grasp onto. So, thank you for sharing that with us.

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  5. M. E. Tudor
    M. E. Tudor says:

    Suzie,
    This came at a perfect time for me. My sister and her life partner of 25 years were killed a plane crash off the coast of Florida Thursday night. Reading this helped take a little of my pain away. Everything is temporary and time does heal, eventually.

    Thanks,
    M. E.

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  6. Ann
    Ann says:

    Suzie, I so enjoy your thoughts here. What this post reminds me of is that, for all the different forms and varieties in nature, there is really only one constant – the life cycle changes. The beauty and newness in birth, growth and full maturity are precursors to the inevitable aging and very different beauty of the dying and reabsorption process. For me natural death is merely is the culmination of the life process. What happens to our energy is a mystery. The pain we feel at anothers death is for our sense of loss, and empathy for others pain – the price we pay for the joy of emotional attachment.

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    • Suzie Carr
      Suzie Carr says:

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this Ann. I love what you said about “what happens to our energy is a mystery.” I completely agree. For me, this holds special value because it’s in the unknown where faith is built, restored, and nurtured.

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