3 Ways to Improve Your Life

Improve your life…sounds intimidating, but it doesn’t have to be. If you’re like most people, you want to be at your best because deep down you know you can’t bring out the best in others if you’re not on that same wavelength.

A great way to get on track is to ask yourself the pointed question of whether something is adding value to your life. An even more helpful question often spawns from this and that is – if it’s not adding value, why are you still breathing power into it by allowing it to stay in your life?


The frankness in this question can be jarring and eye-opening. It is perhaps one of the most important questions a person can ask, though. Life is so short and too precious to waste energy, time, resources on those things, and those people who aren’t bringing out the very best in you.

I would even stretch to look at it this way: you’re doing the world a great disservice by not surrounding yourself with those things and those people who help you to put your best efforts forward.

Improve your life, and you also help to improve the lives of those around you.

So what do you do if you discover you are surrounded by things, activities, and people who are compromising your ability to rise to your highest level?

Improve Your Life

Improve Your Life by Eliminating Bad Habits

Bad habits can drag you down. Period. If your actions are not lifting you to higher ground, then they’re burying the very best in you. This sounds harsh. Often the things people want to hold onto the most, are the ones they want to protect the most. But, in protecting, they’re inadvertently hurting themselves and possibly others. Make sure you set aside some “me time” so you can focus on yourself. This list may help if you are someone who has trouble relaxing and unwinding.

Improve Your Life by Learning to Say No

Are you stretched to full capacity, leaving no room for new opportunities? Do you have a hard time saying no to requests that aren’t exactly in alignment with your greatest assets, dreams, and desires? If yes, then you’re compromising those very ideals that make you so unique and valuable. It’s okay to say no.

Improve Your Life by Letting Go

Are you holding on to a relationship out of fear, comfort, or guilt? Are the people you surround yourself with helping you to grow? Or are they stunting your growth by holding you back from enriching your life through new pursuits? Letting go of relationships that aren’t healthy any longer can be hard because of feelings of guilt, loneliness, and fear. Sometimes letting go is the only way to take that leap forward and fulfill your full potential.

A Final Note on How to Improve Your Life

Taking an honest look at your value system is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself and others. Learning to love yourself and take the best action is never an easy lesson. But to really improve your life, it’s necessary to ensure you’re nurturing that part of yourself that helps you to positively impact the world.

Wishing you the best,
Suzie Carr, Novelist

P.S. Let’s open this up to an honest discussion… Do you agree or disagree with any of these points? What are some steps you’ve taken to improve your life?

8 replies
  1. Alakshendra Tripathi (@reach_alak)
    Alakshendra Tripathi (@reach_alak) says:

    Dear Suzie,

    I love this article of yours but I do have uncertainties clouding my thoughts already. The one about surrounding yourself with people who push you up….I can understand the fact I can eliminate a “bad effect” from my life but who do I get the right person to get into the circle? Do I have to wait for the universe to do the magic trick??

    • Suzie Carr
      Suzie Carr says:

      Dear Alak, I’m a firm believer in leaving nothing to luck… If I want something, I must take action to make it happen. This goes with career, health, and yes, even social connections. Several years back, I relocated from my home state to Maryland. When I did this, I became very lonely. I left everyone behind. I had no connections here. What did I do? I got involved. I joined community programs, took up oil painting, became a volunteer. Basically, I placed myself where I’d be more apt to connect with peope on the same wavelength and frequency as myself. And did I ever. I’ve made lifelong friends with people who are constantly challenging me to strive higher. Does that make sense?

  2. Steve
    Steve says:

    Wow, open and honest, and fast spoken. I know download issues and attention spans… but u c’ud have gone to 3 mins! Some of us don’t hear properly as well. But RELAXATION important in presentation. Especially in such life topics. (why do I feel SC you would make the same point!!) There is full merit in what you say in the clip. I love the bit about values, value systems, as detailed in notes. So much life pain SEEMS to emanate from people wanting to do something, or not do something, and are hemmed in by religion or similar value systems. Which the sufferer will even espouse without reflecting back on the strife it causes in their life. This bit extends what is a typical model for basic healthy positive living.
    My only other qualification is the bit about Sacrifice. It needs qualifying… some sacrifice for peace all the time. “It may be that if you are pushing, always pushing, that sacrifice…” ..sometimes, it appears to me, that we are all called upon to sacrifice something, or part of, to flow peacefully/unharmed in the social aspect of life, this is most noticable usually in work life….” Everyone tho should have a check person or persons, someone they can trust to be on their side, IF they feel oppressed without reply/escape. A problem of loneliness in all it’s manisfestations.
    All that said a BOOK for the SC future would well be Live Positive Musings. Reflecting on human issues in your books and extending this philosophy.. give it a unique twist … Growing and Sexuality???

    • Suzie Carr
      Suzie Carr says:

      Thanks for chiming in Steve. I’m still trying to get comfy in front of a camera… so, perhaps with a few more atttempts I will master the art of presentation:-) I agree with you on that ‘check’ person being valuable to someone. I have a few of them and am very grateful.

      In terms of sacrifice… I think this is specific to a person’s comfort level and situation. I agree that in life we are sometimes called upon to sacrifice something… My point in this piece was to bring to light that sometimes we sacrifice our greatest gifts to the world for the wrong reasons. We all owe it to ourselves to analyze our situations and make the right determination for ourselves.

      Thanks for your support Steve. I appreciate your honesty and feedback:-)

  3. Irish Carter
    Irish Carter says:

    HI Suzie,

    I learned one important way that I could improve my life is to stop stressing over things that I have no control over. Sometimes that means just letting go and accepting what is just the way it is. I think too many times we get stuck in trying to manage life in such a way that we forget there are some things we just have no control over and we just have to accept that.

    Irish Carter
    “Promoting Passionate People”

    • Suzie Carr
      Suzie Carr says:

      Hi Irish, Indeed! I’ve found myself in this position often. The only thing we can control is our actions and reactions. I constantly remind myself of this when I find I’m headed down that path of stressing over how someone else is handling a situation that is counter to how I would. Thanks so much for chiming in:-)

  4. jojo
    jojo says:

    Hi Suzie,

    Thanks so much for the inspiring words which sparked up a nice conversation between my coworker and I. The line that really affected me was: “if it’s not adding value, why are you still breathing power into it by allowing it to stay in your life?”

    My coworker agreed with the statement but brought up an interesting point of discussion: What if something does not add value to your own life, but does add value to someone you deeply care about? What lines do you draw around self-sacrifice (positively affecting your friend’s world) and protecting your own (avoiding depleting your own time/energy)? How would you say you could weigh these out or balance the two?

    Again, thanks for inspiring us to think and talk about such worthwhile things, Suzie. Keep up the amazing work.


    • Suzie Carr
      Suzie Carr says:

      Hi JoJo, Thanks so much for chiming in:-) Your question is indeed interesting. Depending on the context of course, I would say we have complete control over how we will react to someone else’s actions. We can’t control how other’s act, but we can protect our spirit by not allowing them to deplete our energy/time. We have the right to say no if it isn’t in alignment with our beliefs. That being said, there are connections in life that can’t be avoided easily or without some sacrifice. If someone close to us connects deeply with a person who is not good for us, then we either have to be vigilant in protecting our energy around this person or be confident in distancing from them, not allowing the relationship our loved one has with him/her to control the outcome of the one we have together. Back to you JoJo, did this address your question? Thanks so much for participating on this important topic!


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