No More Pretending
“When you realize at an early age you are different, joining the easy crowd means you try to become what you are told you are supposed to be.
I still remember how icky that felt to pretend to be someone I knew I was not. I had introvert tendencies, and that helped me to observe more things around me. “Who is that and why is she sitting there alone? What are those people doing over there and can I do that? Can I travel to places I’ve read about?”
When I stumbled upon a career, I didn’t know 92% of my co-workers would be dudes; girls aren’t geeks, geeks don’t accessorize.
It was much later in life that I connected the dots. I had no choice but to walk away from the easy crowd. I was not even close to being like they were. Walking my own path was lonely at times, but I learned to ask “What IF…Then what.” As far as I’m concerned, that worked out quite well.” – Amy
Well, Amy, as far as I can tell, it sure has worked out quite well! I am a huge fan of that question, what if. In answering it, we discover so much depth to our potential.
Never Took the Easy Road
“Actually, what I thought of when I read this was how easy it is once you’re in management to become a typical manager and not care about worker rights and the tribulations of your supervisees. So, when I was working as a manager, I never took the easy road of agreeing with management but consistently advocated for my staff.” – Alison
Ah, that is a sign of a true leader. That’s what makes this world a better place, people who do the right thing even when it’s not easy to do.
“FWIW in my case, it means when it comes to writing, I have to step up. I can never allow myself to become complacent. I can never allow myself to turn in something that I (italics on ‘I’) think isn’t good enough. Yes, that means more pressure to produce, but the feeling of satisfaction over turning out something worthy is worth it to me.” – Jesse
(Just a side note … I had no idea what FWIW meant! (giggle giggle) Which is usually the case with most acronyms for me. It took me a few long seconds, but I finally realized it meant for what it’s worth! Thank you Jesse for making me stretch my mind! And Jesse Frankel, that’s why I love your books and would never hesitate to recommend them! Your work ethic reminds me of something my parents instilled in me… to take pride in your work and bring the very best you can to it.
Following the Dream
“I was a tomboy when I was a child. I knew I was « different » but nothing in the world prepared me to live a homosexual life ’cause I grew up in a very catholic family. To avoid an argument with my parents my twin sister told my parents to leave her alone when it came to her boyfriend because she told them they should be more worried about me, the daughter who is a dike !! We were in our last high school year (I had a crush on a classmate. It was mutual but she was afraid to confess it.).
At the university I had a very short period of denial (less than 4 months) during which I dated guys to prove that I wasn’t « like that » but I was very unhappy. Then, I had an opportunity to go to Paris to work after graduation. So, I went there and I discovered the gay-world and decided to be proud of who I was. I was the 1st out member of my family from my mother’s side (since then the older of my (male) cousins and a younger (female) cousin have also come out). Officially, I’m still the only one gay member of the family from my father’s side (Some members of this side of the family say that I make my parents cry.).
Don’t get me wrong, it was also difficult for my parents. During a three year period, it was hard to communicate, we didn’t know how to discuss this sensitive subject. We all suffered from the situation, but our love is very deep. We finally went through all this mess together and now my parents are very very supportive. When I had an opportunity to come to live on Reunion Island (an Island I have deeply loved since middle School) they were sad to see me go so far away from them. But, they were happy I was able to follow my dream and live it daily.” – Laure
Wow, Laure you are brave and inspiring. You went through some hurtful times – times though that have made you stronger, wiser, and happier.
Insights on the Easy Road
What incredible insights into such a thoughtful quote from everyone. After reading everyone’s take on it, I began my own reflection of what it means to me, and how I view the easy road.
To me, I interpreted it to mean that if I want to grow, I must continue to seek out challenges that nudge me to think outside the box and view life through a different lens. Only then will I be able to begin the journey to understand life’s intricacies and to face obstacles with a courage born out of the desire to get a little uncomfortable in life in order to truly grasp its delicate beauty and endless offering of gifts.
So over to you, what does this quote mean to you? I hope whatever your understanding of it is, that it brings a smile to your heart and makes you realize just how special you are in this great big universe.